Diamonds (and veggies) are a girl’s best friend

For many, the hardest part about being vegetarian is going out to eat with friends. It’s not the occasional pressure — “you can’t not eat meat!” — that’ll get you down, but rather, the temptation. Take for example, this past Saturday, when a group of girlfriends and I had dinner at Diamondback Grill. I heard “rosemary filet mignon” and “butter-milk fried chicken” being tossed around the table, and sank down into my seat.

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We were all in awe of this glorious-looking chicken ($17).

But as I steadily trailed my finger down the menu, my eyes widened. There were one, two, three, four, five really delicious sounding vegetarian entrees. I couldn’t decide, so I ordered the vegetable trio: tomato basil pie, zucchini noodles and kale with sriracha cilantro Caesar. The zesty zucchini noodles were my favorite part of the dish, and a nice compliment to the rich and cheesy pie.

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My vegetable trio ($16) was ginormous!

Even if you’re not vegetarian, you may want to consider implementing #MeatlessMonday. It’s always nice to start the week on a lighter, healthier note. It’s also a great excuse to head to Diamondback Grill for dinner tonight!

Diamondback Grill

751 North Avalon Avenue

Winston-Salem, 2817

(336) 722-0006

Luxe Lashes at a Low Price

I sometimes hear other women rave about their “Holy Grail” mascara — some mascara that’s so skilled (and expensive) it’s supposed to curl, lift, darken and cook your lashes a gourmet breakfast in the morning. Wouldn’t that be nice?

Since I can’t afford to try every “HG” product I hear about, and since even the best sounding mascara has its flaws, I make sure to have other tubes that I can rely on: drug-store mascaras. Affordable (under $10), easy to find, and they get the job done.

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FOR SPARSE LASHES

If your lashes are sparse, you have more space than you’d like between each individual hair, which makes it hard to put on mascara without smudging some onto your eyelid. You’ll need a light, quick-drying formula — one that’s applied with a tiny, precise brush. CoverGirl Lash Exact Mascara is all of these things. It’ll help your lashes look naturally longer and fuller.

FOR LIGHT-COLORED LASHES

If your lashes are practically invisible (as mine are), you’re in need of a product with an intense pigment. Hello, L’Oreal Paris Telescopic Shocking Extensions Mascara in Carbon Black. One swoop and you’ll notice a huge difference in the color of your lashes. It’s clump-free, so darken to your heart’s desire.

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WATERPROOF

I like waterproof mascara because it holds curl better than non-waterproof formula. I don’t wear it every day, but when I need to (for curls’ sake or for tears’ sake) I turn to Maybelline Volum’Express The Rocket Waterproof Mascara. The patented ‘Supersonic Brush’ loads on big, sleek volume. I also appreciate how easy it comes off; no threat of lost lashes with this one!

Draining Swamps with Author and Editor Kate White

My book-a-week project is turning out to be more of a book-a-month project. I’ve got plans to catch up over spring break, though, I promise! My latest conquest was Kate White’s I Shouldn’t Be Telling You This.

Kate White is a Cosmo girl’s hero and I am SO glad that she took the time to spill her “success secrets every gutsy girl should know.” White graduated with a B.A in English from Union College in 1972. From there, she went on to take over the (magazine) world, serving as Editor-in-chief of Cosmopolitan from 1998-2012.

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White’s advice is real. I love how she’s not afraid to give readers a swift kick in the butt. Here’s what I learned from I Shouldn’t Be Telling You This, in regards to success, job search, leadership and rejection:

RULE #1: GO BIG OR GO HOME

White advises women to go big or go home, but recognizes the risks that come with making a bold decision. She provides a small warning: “When you go big, there will be people wishing you had gone home instead” (7).  But instead of trying to be safe and please everyone, White recommends staying true to yourself. “You want the respect of your coworkers,” she writes, “but you don’t need them to be your buddies” (8).

WHAT ARE YOU REALLY LUSTING FOR?

It’s easy to get stuck in one way of thinking, especially when you have a preconceived notion about your own strengths or the job that you are taking on. White implores women to “always challenge [their] thinking, especially anything you’re adamant about” (17). Don’t get caught up in thoughts like “I would never be X.” Instead, White says, ask, “What if I was X?”

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ON FINDING A JOB

  • “Be factual, but you don’t have to be modest” (24).
    • White sees way too many women downplay their achievements on their resume.
  • “I love to see passion” (25).
  • “I love a candidate who seems real” (25).
  • “We want to know what you can do for us!” (25)
    • Don’t let your resume scream “me.”
  • When scheduling an interview, don’t tell the interviewer “X times work for me.” Ask the interviewer, “What times work for you?” (27)
  • “Do not cross your legs. Keep both feet on the ground” during an interview (37).
    • It’ll signal that you’re confident and steady.
  • Don’t be too “familiar-acting” in interviews. “How’s your day going so far?” can seem nosy (43).
    • To be safe, keep it professional.

ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT

I know it’s more comforting to believe otherwise, but “work doesn’t speak for itself. We’re the ones who need to do the talking” (72). White argues that being vocal can help women get what they want at work. She urges readers to “know the ZOPA” — Zone of Possible Agreement. Always go into negotiation with a sense of your range of satisfaction and the other person’s range in mind.

DO NOT WEAR A PUFFER COAT TO WORK IN WINTER (84). Guilty. White suggests a classic black or camel coat instead.

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BE GRABBY! These tiny actions may have larger ripple effects:

  • Grab a chance to introduce yourself to someone powerful at a party (114).
  • Grab a chair close to someone important at a meeting (115).
  • Grab a diamond in the rough project that no one else wants to touch (115).
  • Put your idea out there, even if it’s not perfectly perfect (143).
  • Make information gathering a regular part of what you do (193) — set up a Google alert, get the Flipboard app.
  • Don’t say “I’ll get back to you as soon as possible,” give concrete times and dates (217).
    • “Vow to take action the first time you glance at something” (289).

My favorite quote from I Shouldn’t Be Telling You This is, “Drain the swamp as you slay the alligators.” White elaborates: “When you’re up to your ass in gnats and alligators, it’s easy to forget that the initial objective was to drain the swamp” (210).

It’s a perfect summation of her philosophy.

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Yes, starting a career is difficult. Yes, things will change. Yes, ‘bliss’ may seem hard to find. But as long as you believe in yourself, stay focused and purchase a few metaphorical bottles of OFF! bug spray, your swamp’ll be on its way to empty in no time.

Mama (Zoe) knows best

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I’m abstaining from meat for Lent, so this succulent, bacon-brimming breakfast club from Mama Zoe Michaels is out of the question. But, because of that, I need all of my fabulous readers to go out and order it so I can live — eat — vicariously through you.

The breakfast club is a triple decker sandwich topped with turkey, ham, fried egg, bacon, American cheese, lettuce, tomato and mayo. When I order it I forego the ham and turkey, so it’s basically a bacon, egg and cheese. Any way you get it, it’s deeelicious. Thanks, Mama Zoe!

Mama Zoe Michaels

2859 Reynolda Rd.

Winston Salem, NC  27106

Phone:  (336) 722-4946

Valentine’s Day 2k15 was quite cheesy

…but I wouldn’t have had it any other way. This year my boyfriend and I stayed in and made a quick, decadent pasta dinner. Is this what adulthood feels like?

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The dish is inspired by Ina Garten’s “Tagliarelle with Truffle Butter.”

 Noodles of Love

  • Salt
  • Black pepper
  • 1/2 cup heavy cream
  • 1 (8.82-ounce) package Cipriani tagliarelle dried pasta
  • A handful of fresh chopped chives
  • 4 ounces shaved Parmesan

Boil water.

On stove top, heat cream over medium until it comes to a simmer. Add salt and a generous amount of pepper.

Add the pasta to the boiling water and cook. Drain pasta and put it back in pan. Drizzle cream sauce on top of pasta. Toss together. Add in Parmesan cheese. Toss.

Garnish with fresh chopped chives and more Parmesan. Enjoy!

I loved the card that he got me!

I loved the card that he got me!

You’re $20 away from growing longer lashes

I have a love-hate relationship with my eyelashes. I love ‘em when they’re smothered in 5 coats of Armani Black Ecstasy Mascara. But I hate ‘em when I wipe off all that mascara and am left with near-invisible, straight stubs. Ugh.

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For 4 years now I’ve been hunting for a product protocol to nurture my lashes into longer, thicker, darker and curlier hairs. Mascara can only do so much, when we’re working with so little…

I think I’ve finally got the formula down pat. With these three items, I’ve managed to do away with obvious eyelash sparseness and breakage, and am enjoying longer lashes than ever before. Here’s how you can grow yours, too:

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1. Start using Boots’ No7 Fanomenal Lash Serum ($9.99).

Eyelash serums can be ridiculously expensive, so when I found No7 Fanomenal Lash Serum for only $9.99 at Target and discovered its stellar reviews on Boots.com, I pounced. After four weeks of nightly application, I noticed my lashes looking fuller and darker. Now I’m up to four months of use, and my lashes are at least a tenth of an inch longer than they were. You may never stop using this. Major pro: the formula is clear and non-irritating, and can be applied to brows as well.

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2. Stop using an eyelash curler.

…and start using a toothbrush. Since I wanted to grow my lashes, I needed to find a gentler approach to curling than my usual (AKA pumping the sh*t out of those bad boys). Now, I brush my lashes “up” using a soft, fluffy toothbrush that I’ve bought just for that purpose. The brushing motion helps naturally lift your lashes into an upright, curled position.

3. Apply POND’S, liberally. 

Treat yourself and your lashes to a tub of POND’S (only $4.49 at Walgreen’s). When I use a dollop of POND’S and a soft tissue to remove my eye makeup, I experience significantly less “eyelash suicide” than if I use a makeup wipe. This is probably because POND’S is so thick and soothing that you barely have to rub your lashes at all to get the makeup off.

So there you have it. With these three items in your arsenal, the sky’s the (lash) limit, ladies!

Rose O’Brien

Lauren Friezo:

Tie A Yellow Ribbon Week ends, but sexual assault does not. Please read this reflection from Rose O’Brien ’18, — a fellow PREPARE Facilitator — as she dares to shake the misguided belief that sexual assault is something that happens to “other people” or “not here.” It is a tough reality to face, but so necessary if we are to build a true community of safety and mindfulness at Wake Forest.

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Dedicated to my roomie Jenny who encouraged me to write this reflection.

My name is Rose O’Brien and this is a story about something I saw on Wake’s campus last Friday.

The names are all are changed.

Last weekend, I was going to a friend’s dorm when I heard a conversation I will never forget. As I

walked, I couldn’t help but notice a loud group of people behind me. There were four or five boys, and

one girl who kept hiccupping, clearly intoxicated. They shushed her and pleaded with her to stop drawing

attention to them. As two or three picked her up and teased her, I heard one say to the other, “Let’s take

her to Matthew.”

At this, my ears perked up and I began to walk more slowly. I realized that the girl was among strangers.

They asked, “What’s your name, sweetheart? Come with us and…

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The Write Path

I’d been fighting fate for most my life. The only thing I’d ever seen my parents “write” was a check. They were born analytics; my sister too. I was always the odd one out. When I did math the numbers would swirl together like butterflies and then disappear. And when anything happened, good or bad, I’d write about it. I still do.

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I came to Wake Forest, a business school. I struggled through Economics; I was the only one who brought a pink, yellow, green and orange highlighter to every test. I thought in color. I still do. But I never made higher than a B-.

In my English and Journalism classes, I earned A’s. I began to write for Her Campus and was promoted to Executive Editor. Reluctantly, I declared English as my major. It tasted bitter. Words I’d never heard aloud somehow haunted me: “Print is dead.”

I added an Entrepreneurship minor, because it sounded business-like.

Last semester I started applying for jobs, and none of them involved writing. In January, I made it to a third round interview with a major IT corporation. Things were going well until my interviewer said this: “Now I don’t want you to take this the wrong way, but, from your resume, it seems like you should be a writer. Why do you want to sell software?”

A bubble in my chest swelled, and then burst. Who did I think I was fooling? I choked out an answer to his question, but neither of us was convinced. I hung up, eyes boiling with tears. I felt stripped. Naked. Angry. Yet also, awake. Here was the truth: I didn’t want the job. I never wanted the job. I was a writer, and everyone around me could see it except me.

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I decided to pause my job search and instead started blogging more. The words I’d stifled for the past six months flew from my fingertips. I’ve been blogging here, and on Her Campus.

I switched my schedule and joined a Magazine Writing class. I told my parents that I wanted to be a writer and they replied, “It’s about time.” The more honest I am with myself, the better I feel. As I go forward, I will continue to fight. But with pen in hand, this time I’m fighting for my fate, and not against it.

Last Monday, I connected with a woman who worked at Hearst Magazines; we chatted by phone. “Tell me a little bit about you,” she started.

“My name is Lauren Friezo,” I said, lips stretching into a smile, “and I’m a writer.”

**This article is a modified version of a piece written for my Magazine Writing class. The form is modeled after the Aha! Moments series in O, The Oprah Magazine.

What’s Missing From Your Business Schools

When was the last time you cried in a college classroom?

For me, it was earlier this morning. My eyes welled as my professor recounted the day her stroke-stricken mother passed away; how, though her mother could no longer speak, she somehow deciphered her sounds and squirms and realized that she wanted her to paint her fingernails one last time — “Cyan red.”

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It was when a classmate shared words and scars from an abusive relationship — a relationship that temporarily robbed her of her passions and personhood, but ultimately taught her that she will never, ever settle.

It was when a classmate read a powerful essay about her grandmother, a woman who told her to not ever wear overalls but to always chase her dream of being a writer. It reminded me of my own grandparents. 

You see, in the Journalism class above, we started the semester with an exercise titled, “I am from…” We were given 15 minutes to write, to complete the sentence. Those were the only instructions. So we wrote. We read. We learned. We laughed. We cried. And suddenly, our professor became a person. And our classmates became friends. And now we’re writing about our dead families and the ghosts of our relationships and it’s not weird at all. It’s real and it’s really good writing.

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When was the last time you were vulnerable in a classroom? When was the last time you read a piece of travel journalism with the power to transport you halfway across the world? When was the last time you met a protagonist who possessed your own flaws and was hard to stomach because she reminded you of everything that you dislike about yourself? When was the last time you clung to an illness narrative and wept real tears of grief at the ending? When was the last time you were reminded that the same motivations and evils haunt our society today, as they did 400 years ago?

I am an English major also enrolled in Journalism and Creative Writing classes. Ask any one of my classmates about their “last time” and, if they did the homework, they’ll say “Yesterday.”

Now I don’t mean to doubt the business students, computer science majors and pre-meds. But before there were stock tickers, calculators and pharmaceuticals — there were people and their stories.

Because of my liberal arts education, I know there still are.

Please, let’s not forget them.

“If the beauty industry has changed the way we look, it has done so chiefly with the written word” — Mark Tungate

True to my word, I’ve finished book one of my book-a-week challenge — Branded Beauty by Mark Tungate. It wasn’t hard. I literally could not put it down; partly because I was shocked and saddened by how little I knew about some of my favorite cosmetics. If this book has taught me anything about beauty marketing, it’s that we don’t actually buy products. We buy stories. And the stories and visionaries behind the beauty powerhouses Tungate explores in Branded Beauty are epic, inspiring and influential. Here are some of the major takeaways from the book:

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1. Bow down to no one, except your customers (pg. 36)

Charles Revson, founder of Revlon Nail Enamel had an extraordinary gift: he knew what women wanted. How? He asked. Revson was proud of his aggressive sale strategy — both pre and post-purchase. He believed in “being available for customers,” answering consumer phone calls and confronting questions directly. Revson even slept in his nail polish and lipstick to test firsthand how it looked in the morning. He gave his ideas legs — proving that great products are born in stores, on streets and inside homes.

2. Be your competition (pg. 49)

In 1965, Estée Lauder launched brand Clinique. Why? Because it was everything Estée Lauder wasn’t. In Branded Beauty, Leonard Lauder, Estée’s son, is quoted saying, “The reason we launched Clinque is that I felt that if we were going to go into a business against [Estée Lauder] this is exactly how I would do it.” Great brands know who they are, and if Estée Lauder had tried to adopt the simple, clinical philosophy that Clinique was founded on, it wouldn’t have made sense. So they created a whole new (and extremely successful) brand.

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3. Have talent, not potential (pg. 70)

According to one of Tungate’s inside sources, L’Oréal employees were fond of reminding one another that they possessed talent, not potential. So it makes sense that L’Oréal’s advertising tagline was born in the same vein. The current slogan reads “Because We’re Worth It,” but it was coined by 23-year-old copywriter Ilon Specht as “Because I’m Worth It” in 1973. Just one phrase — four words — but it captures everything L’Oréal stood for and still stands for. It implies that L’Oréal users are already worthy and deserving of glam. Talent, not potential.

4. Think outside of the box (pg. 246)

Future beauty products will move away from our faces and into our stomachs and blood streams. Tungate anticipates the rise of Nutricosmetics: nutritional supplements and foods that encourage beauty from within, and Neurocosmetics: aromatic mood and cognition enhancers. We no longer want to cover pimples/wrinkles/dark circles, we want to make them go away. We don’t want to look good while wearing a product, we want to feel good too. These are exciting concepts and they open up a lot of potential for young beauty entrepreneurs.

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5. Once upon a time… (pg. 255)

Tungate ends the book by emphasizing the role that writers have played in branding the beauty products that we know and love. “Applying cosmetics is a ritual,” Tungate writes, one that helps “ease stress” and “represents stability” (256). Applying cosmetics also gives us hope, takes us on journeys, makes us feel sexy and daring and adds a bit of magic to otherwise mundane morning routines. But products don’t do that on their own, the writers do, and they do it through telling stories.